Do people change?

Cynics will think that "I bet that other driver now feels he got one over me...", whereas the truth is almost always that they think "What a decent cove - that's made my day."

We mustn't let the cynics win

Ever noticed that when you're moving in a queue of cars on a 'main' road, if you stop and allow a car to join from a side road, that car driver will almost certainly do the exact same for another car very soon afterwards? And so on.

Which means, of course, you're now in a much longer queue...

 

So what did that spar smack teach you?

It clearly didn't teach you not to smoke - because you became a smoker - but it instead 'taught' you not to defy him?

You learned that whatever he said was to be obeyed, at the cost of physical pain.

I wonder if he had instead sat you down and said "Mr Ha, smoking is truly a mug's game. The very worst thing a parent can suffer is to outlive their children - please don't do anything to help make that happen. Don't do it to your mum and me - we simply couldn't bear it - and don't do it to your own children either..." it would have had a more long-lasting effect?

 

You are sooo not Ms Pick.

(I wonder how she's getting on... )

 

Clearly the forum is here to offer help on many trade and DIY topics and often works great

In some cases though, and there have been a few, you can just tell from people's posts that they need a more specialise kinda help, something that can't be gained from this site

I don't mean to mock or take lightly but if you're out there struggling with life / emotions ..... Why why why would you air it on the Screwfix Forum

Non of us know who it is hiding behind the keyboard and there is help available outside in the community - Talk to your GP in the first instance - yep takes time to get things in place and yep I know, mental health budget cuts but really, if your struggling and you realise it, you have to take a tiny step yourself in the right direction for help

There's been some really kind and useful words said on this post but Jit, with the greatest respect, you need 1-1 face to face time with a professional to help you start to feel better about life

Stay on this site please as ur posts are great, interesting and always offering help to others. Keep your projects in the go re house refurb and keep us all updated pls

All the best

 

Would you put money on it.????

 

Good points, Dave. There are some things you cannot always 'DIY'.

I'd hope that someone who is as aware of what's going on as Phil and Jit are, would also be quite ready to seek further help when it's needed - as Phil, to his credit, is. And possibly Jit too?

But, I think it's truly brilliant that peeps like Phil and Jit are airing these issues 'publicly', 'cos it IS bludy common, and this surely all helps to get it out in the open - where it's treated as nothing more different than 'flu'. You've got it, and there's sod all you did to 'catch' it.

The other good thing about 'fora' is that they are anonymous. Not that that prevents one from taking things personally, of course - Wry has stung me many times...


(Where the hell is Wry?)

 

You ARE a girlie?

Man, I neffer knew

 

I wonder if that does come with age?! I've started being very conciliatory when driving too; if someone does summat stoopid that inconveniences me, or if I do summat wrong that makes someone blast their 'orn in an exaggerated fashion, I don't get cross or gesticulate wildly at them as I once would. Instead I smile benignly at them.

'Cos that really pishes them orf...

That's what the 'horn blast' is all about - "How could you be sooo stupid? You ain't a brill driver like ME! I want you to KNOW what I think of you! I WANT you to feel belittled and angry!"

"What?! You are smiling back at me?!!!! YOU COMPLETE BAAAAAAAAAA "




(I need help... )

 

He tried that. I didn't listen. I thought I could get away with it.

No. I learned that there was a consequence if I did wrong!

Mr. HandyAndy - Really

 

Hang on in there Jit. I also have been a fellow sufferer from time to time. You tend to over analyse everything. This may help you or may not .

Anyway all the best mate.

 

Do you have someone there to look out for you, Jit?

 

I'm sure that Jit has mentioned his parents before on various posts but it's not always easy to talk or share your concerns with those nearest and dearest to you

Some people find it much easier to confide in a stranger, ie. Health care professional

Taking that first step though to seek help can be the hardest
In fact, carrying out the simplest day to day activities can become nigh on impossible due to lack of focus and motivation

Let's hope that Jit can discuss his above posts with someone face to face as I still think this is the most helpful effective method to begin feeling better about ur self and life in general

Certainly does seem to be a growing concern within society this depression and anxiety stuff, also knows no age barriers

Very worrying when it hits the kids as can steal the joys of childhood and stick with them throughout their adult life too

Jit..... U gotta take the first step and discuss ur feelings with someone that you feel comfortable with, face to face, a fellow human as well. Can be friend, family or stranger, it's the human contact and sharing that starts the road to recovery

Please continue on the forum but I fear that this alone won't help you - this is just my opinion and it's meant with the best wishes to you Jit

 

So is Jit a boy or a girl?